Strong Me — modern psychology from women to women
A platform with psychology articles written by women, for women — with depth, respect, and a real understanding of life’s emotional complexity
Strong Me — modern psychology from women to women
A platform with psychology articles written by women, for women — with depth, respect, and a real understanding of life’s emotional complexity
6 Reasons Why You Don’t Like Anyone
Admit it — sometimes it feels like your friends know some secret formula for where and how to find partners.
1. You Do Not Have the Energy or Time for a Relationship
When serious upheavals happen in the world or in your personal life — Covid and lockdowns, moving to another country, losing someone close — so many tasks and responsibilities can fall on you that relationships naturally move into the background.
Usually, such periods do not last forever. But if no one has interested you for years, it may mean that, unconsciously, you are choosing solitude.
Usually, such periods do not last forever. But if no one has interested you for years, it may mean that, unconsciously, you are choosing solitude.
2. You No Longer Want the Old Way, but the New Way Is Not Clear Yet
When a person begins to work on themselves, their old reasons for wanting a relationship often disappear. Fears, family patterns, and familiar emotional scripts no longer guide them in the same way.
But new ones have not fully appeared yet.
So you simply do not know what a relationship “in a new way” is supposed to look like.
But new ones have not fully appeared yet.
So you simply do not know what a relationship “in a new way” is supposed to look like.
3. You Are Avoiding Relationships
You may be so afraid of intimacy, pain, or repeating a past traumatic experience that your psyche tries to protect you.
Ironically, it does this by working against you.
That is why it may feel as if “there is no one normal out there.”
Ironically, it does this by working against you.
That is why it may feel as if “there is no one normal out there.”
4. Overcompensation
It is possible that you see yourself as an exceptionally special person — almost “above everyone else.”
The position of “I don’t like anyone” protects you from disappointment.
Because if you enter into real contact with someone, you may also have to face your own imperfections.
The position of “I don’t like anyone” protects you from disappointment.
Because if you enter into real contact with someone, you may also have to face your own imperfections.
5. The Need to Serve
You may not like anyone because there is no one around you to “save” or serve.
When you solve other people’s problems, you feel significant and needed.
An equal relationship does not give you that same emotional charge.
When you solve other people’s problems, you feel significant and needed.
An equal relationship does not give you that same emotional charge.
6. A Past Significant Relationship or Unrequited Love
This one is simple.
Emotionally, you may already be in a relationship.
With an ex.
With an unrequited love.
With someone you have not truly let go of.
And when you are internally unavailable, there is no space for new closeness.
Emotionally, you may already be in a relationship.
With an ex.
With an unrequited love.
With someone you have not truly let go of.
And when you are internally unavailable, there is no space for new closeness.
Do you recognize yourself in any of these situations?
Which one feels most like yours?
Which one feels most like yours?
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Meet the authors of Strong Me
We created Strong Me as three psychologists from different generations and life experiences, united by the same belief: women need guidance that feels honest, intelligent, and written from one woman to another. Our platform is here to help women understand themselves, their relationships, and their worth with more depth and confidence.
- Aiko VossPhD in PsychologyI grew up between cultures, and for a long time I felt I had to be quiet, pleasant, and easy to love. Psychology helped me understand how many women are taught to abandon themselves in order to be accepted. My work is about self-worth, emotional boundaries, and helping women stop shrinking themselves to keep peace.
- Mirela HartmannPhD in Experimental PsychologyMy background is in Experimental Psychology, so I have always been interested in why people repeat the same emotional patterns, even when those patterns hurt them. In my own life, I also had to learn the difference between being understanding and overgiving. Today, I write about relationships, attachment, and the quiet power of choosing yourself.
- Seraphina ValePhD in Clinical PsychologyAfter many years as a clinical psychologist, I have seen women survive heartbreak, divorce, grief, motherhood, loneliness, and new beginnings. What I know for certain is this: strength is not about becoming hard. It is about finally listening to yourself. My writing is for women who are ready to heal with dignity, clarity, and self-respect.