Strong Me — modern psychology from women to women
A platform with psychology articles written by women, for women — with depth, respect, and a real understanding of life’s emotional complexity
Strong Me — modern psychology from women to women
A platform with psychology articles written by women, for women — with depth, respect, and a real understanding of life’s emotional complexity
6 Signs You Cannot Let Go of a Past Love
You may have broken up a long time ago. Your shared story may already belong to the past. Your ex may even be in a new relationship now — sometimes even with a family — yet inside, you still have not fully closed that chapter.
Here is a checklist to help you understand where you are.
Here is a checklist to help you understand where you are.
1. You Think About Your Ex Constantly
Time moves on, but you feel as though you are still in the same emotional place.
Almost every new event reminds you of the past — of the time when the two of you were together.
Almost every new event reminds you of the past — of the time when the two of you were together.
2. You Miss Him Deeply
Sometimes the longing feels so strong that you start questioning everything:
“What if we should never have broken up?”
You may feel the urge to text or call, just to “try one more time.”
You might also follow his social media almost like a digital detective — noticing new contacts, likes, and posts.
“What if we should never have broken up?”
You may feel the urge to text or call, just to “try one more time.”
You might also follow his social media almost like a digital detective — noticing new contacts, likes, and posts.
3. You Compare Everyone to Him
When someone new appears and a new relationship could be possible, you do not really give them a chance.
Instead of going on a date and allowing yourself to enjoy the moment, you start dismissing potential partners because they “do not measure up” to your ex.
Or you may fall into generalizations such as:
“All men are the same.”
Instead of going on a date and allowing yourself to enjoy the moment, you start dismissing potential partners because they “do not measure up” to your ex.
Or you may fall into generalizations such as:
“All men are the same.”
4. You Still Feel Strong Emotions
In the beginning after a breakup, anger, sadness, anxiety, and confusion are normal.
Over time, however, their intensity should gradually decrease.
If that does not happen, you may still be emotionally stuck in the past relationship.
Over time, however, their intensity should gradually decrease.
If that does not happen, you may still be emotionally stuck in the past relationship.
5. You Want Revenge
You may feel a strong desire to hurt him back, to “show him,” to make him feel the same pain and realize what he lost.
6. You Talk About Him Constantly
Sometimes you may not even notice that you are doing it:
“What would he say?”
“How would he act in this situation?”
“What would he say?”
“How would he act in this situation?”
You can spend months, or even years, believing you will never meet anyone better. You can keep carrying resentment and pain, while taking away your own chance at new happiness.
But is that really what you want?
You may be stuck in the breakup for many different reasons. What matters is understanding why — and changing the way you experience the end of the relationship.
When you begin to act differently, the results will not take long to appear.
You will feel lighter.
You will feel a sense of release.
But is that really what you want?
You may be stuck in the breakup for many different reasons. What matters is understanding why — and changing the way you experience the end of the relationship.
When you begin to act differently, the results will not take long to appear.
You will feel lighter.
You will feel a sense of release.
Joy, confidence, and a renewed sense of your own attractiveness will return to your life.
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We created Strong Me as three psychologists from different generations and life experiences, united by the same belief: women need guidance that feels honest, intelligent, and written from one woman to another. Our platform is here to help women understand themselves, their relationships, and their worth with more depth and confidence.
- Aiko VossPhD in PsychologyI grew up between cultures, and for a long time I felt I had to be quiet, pleasant, and easy to love. Psychology helped me understand how many women are taught to abandon themselves in order to be accepted. My work is about self-worth, emotional boundaries, and helping women stop shrinking themselves to keep peace.
- Mirela HartmannPhD in Experimental PsychologyMy background is in Experimental Psychology, so I have always been interested in why people repeat the same emotional patterns, even when those patterns hurt them. In my own life, I also had to learn the difference between being understanding and overgiving. Today, I write about relationships, attachment, and the quiet power of choosing yourself.
- Seraphina ValePhD in Clinical PsychologyAfter many years as a clinical psychologist, I have seen women survive heartbreak, divorce, grief, motherhood, loneliness, and new beginnings. What I know for certain is this: strength is not about becoming hard. It is about finally listening to yourself. My writing is for women who are ready to heal with dignity, clarity, and self-respect.