Strong Me — modern psychology from women to women
A platform with psychology articles written by women, for women — with depth, respect, and a real understanding of life’s emotional complexity
Strong Me — modern psychology from women to women
A platform with psychology articles written by women, for women — with depth, respect, and a real understanding of life’s emotional complexity
7 Questions to Ask Yourself for a Happier Life
1. How am I, really?
To live a truly happy and fulfilling life, it is important to stay connected to the childlike part within us — our inner child. Regardless of our age, social status, or achievements, there are still little girls and little boys living inside us — those younger versions of who we are.
Here is a list of questions that can help you reconnect with that part of your personality.
Here is a list of questions that can help you reconnect with that part of your personality.
Ask yourself this question at least once a day. If your life is busy and fast-paced, ask it several times.
At first, your answers may be general: “I’m fine,” “normal,” “same as usual.”
Your task is to go deeper.
What exactly does “normal” mean?
What color does this feeling have?
What is underneath it?
At first, your answers may be general: “I’m fine,” “normal,” “same as usual.”
Your task is to go deeper.
What exactly does “normal” mean?
What color does this feeling have?
What is underneath it?
2. What do I want?
Try to sense what you want right now, in this very moment — and what you want from life in general.
Most people who seek therapy find it difficult to hear their own desires. To avoid reaching that point, get into the habit of regularly checking in with your inner world of wants and needs.
Your inner child is closely connected to your desires. The stronger your relationship with that part of yourself, the more colorful, rich, and fulfilling your life can become.
Most people who seek therapy find it difficult to hear their own desires. To avoid reaching that point, get into the habit of regularly checking in with your inner world of wants and needs.
Your inner child is closely connected to your desires. The stronger your relationship with that part of yourself, the more colorful, rich, and fulfilling your life can become.
3. When was the last time I truly had fun?
Fun brings us joy and energy. It releases tension and makes life feel lighter.
Why?
Because it nourishes the inner child — and with it, our level of energy, ideas, and emotional vitality.
Why?
Because it nourishes the inner child — and with it, our level of energy, ideas, and emotional vitality.
4. What emotions have I been feeling most often lately?
What do I feel most often?
Which emotion has been the strongest?
If someone inside you is constantly crying, angry, or demanding attention, it becomes difficult to live happily and build healthy relationships.
That is why it is important to recognize your emotions and, when needed, take care of them.
Which emotion has been the strongest?
If someone inside you is constantly crying, angry, or demanding attention, it becomes difficult to live happily and build healthy relationships.
That is why it is important to recognize your emotions and, when needed, take care of them.
5. What do I truly love doing?
When do I become so absorbed in something that I lose track of time?
What could I talk about for hours?
What makes my eyes light up?
If it feels like you do not have anything like that right now, go back to your childhood.
What made you feel alive?
Make a list and consider whether you can bring some of those activities back into your life today.
What could I talk about for hours?
What makes my eyes light up?
If it feels like you do not have anything like that right now, go back to your childhood.
What made you feel alive?
Make a list and consider whether you can bring some of those activities back into your life today.
6. What do I expect from the world?
You can make a list here too. Then look at it carefully:
Which of these things can I give myself?
Which expectations are realistic?
Which ones are more like fantasies?
If you notice that you have many unrealistic expectations, it may be worth asking yourself:
Am I living in the adult world — or in a childlike one?
Which of these things can I give myself?
Which expectations are realistic?
Which ones are more like fantasies?
If you notice that you have many unrealistic expectations, it may be worth asking yourself:
Am I living in the adult world — or in a childlike one?
7. What do I dream about?
Adults often forget how to dream. But dreams are incredibly important.
If this question leaves you feeling stuck, return to the dreams you had as a child.
If this question leaves you feeling stuck, return to the dreams you had as a child.
Look at them again.
What do you feel?
And what are you doing today to bring them closer to reality?
What do you feel?
And what are you doing today to bring them closer to reality?
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Meet the authors of Strong Me
We created Strong Me as three psychologists from different generations and life experiences, united by the same belief: women need guidance that feels honest, intelligent, and written from one woman to another. Our platform is here to help women understand themselves, their relationships, and their worth with more depth and confidence.
- Aiko VossPhD in PsychologyI grew up between cultures, and for a long time I felt I had to be quiet, pleasant, and easy to love. Psychology helped me understand how many women are taught to abandon themselves in order to be accepted. My work is about self-worth, emotional boundaries, and helping women stop shrinking themselves to keep peace.
- Mirela HartmannPhD in Experimental PsychologyMy background is in Experimental Psychology, so I have always been interested in why people repeat the same emotional patterns, even when those patterns hurt them. In my own life, I also had to learn the difference between being understanding and overgiving. Today, I write about relationships, attachment, and the quiet power of choosing yourself.
- Seraphina ValePhD in Clinical PsychologyAfter many years as a clinical psychologist, I have seen women survive heartbreak, divorce, grief, motherhood, loneliness, and new beginnings. What I know for certain is this: strength is not about becoming hard. It is about finally listening to yourself. My writing is for women who are ready to heal with dignity, clarity, and self-respect.