Strong Me — modern psychology from women to women
A platform with psychology articles written by women, for women — with depth, respect, and a real understanding of life’s emotional complexity
Strong Me — modern psychology from women to women
A platform with psychology articles written by women, for women — with depth, respect, and a real understanding of life’s emotional complexity
Guide: “How to Find Your Calling”
Sometimes it can feel as if only a chosen few are lucky enough to discover their true calling, while everyone else simply has to accept their fate and spend life going to a boring job.
But the truth is, finding your calling is not about luck. It is about conscious choice.
So here is a guide to help you become one of those “lucky chosen ones” too.
But the truth is, finding your calling is not about luck. It is about conscious choice.
So here is a guide to help you become one of those “lucky chosen ones” too.
1. Learn to Listen to Your Desires
Your calling is always connected to what you truly want. That is why it is so important to learn to hear your own desires.
Start asking yourself several times a day:
“What do I want right now?”
It can be something very small, such as, “Do I really want another cup of coffee?” Or it can be something much bigger.
Ideally, you do not just notice your desires — you begin to act on them. Over time, try not to postpone what you want. Practice taking action.
Start asking yourself several times a day:
“What do I want right now?”
It can be something very small, such as, “Do I really want another cup of coffee?” Or it can be something much bigger.
Ideally, you do not just notice your desires — you begin to act on them. Over time, try not to postpone what you want. Practice taking action.
2. Identify What You Love Doing
Your calling is connected to what you love.
This does not necessarily mean turning your hobby into your job. But ask yourself:
What genuinely brings you joy?
What do you get so absorbed in that you lose track of time?
There is a clue there.
This does not necessarily mean turning your hobby into your job. But ask yourself:
What genuinely brings you joy?
What do you get so absorbed in that you lose track of time?
There is a clue there.
3. Understand What You Are Good At
Think about this:
What do friends and acquaintances usually come to you for?
What topic could you give a mini-lecture on right now?
Even if it feels like you do not have “anything special,” that is not true.
You do. You simply need to recognize your strengths and bring your “superpowers” to the surface.
What do friends and acquaintances usually come to you for?
What topic could you give a mini-lecture on right now?
Even if it feels like you do not have “anything special,” that is not true.
You do. You simply need to recognize your strengths and bring your “superpowers” to the surface.
4. What Truly Matters to You in Life?
Do not choose a direction based on other people’s opinions or expectations.
Only you can say what gives your life meaning and what you cannot imagine yourself living without.
And here is another important question:
What is the thing you cannot not do?
Only you can say what gives your life meaning and what you cannot imagine yourself living without.
And here is another important question:
What is the thing you cannot not do?
5. Dream
Bring together everything you want, everything you love, and everything you are good at.
Then ask yourself:
What kind of work or field would allow me to express this — or at least most of it?
Write down every idea that comes to mind.
No censorship.
No shame.
Be bold.
Then ask yourself:
What kind of work or field would allow me to express this — or at least most of it?
Write down every idea that comes to mind.
No censorship.
No shame.
Be bold.
At some point, a general direction will begin to take shape — one you can start moving toward.
Do not be frightened if it seems like “there is no way to make money from this.” Fear is normal. But your calling is not one single profession. It is a broader concept that can be expressed through different activities, roles, and paths.
And one more thing: your calling is always connected to your superpower. That is why it is so important to discover it first.
The process looks like this:
First, you discover your superpower.
Then, you define your calling.
Only after that do you look for specific ways to bring it into the world.
Do not be frightened if it seems like “there is no way to make money from this.” Fear is normal. But your calling is not one single profession. It is a broader concept that can be expressed through different activities, roles, and paths.
And one more thing: your calling is always connected to your superpower. That is why it is so important to discover it first.
The process looks like this:
First, you discover your superpower.
Then, you define your calling.
Only after that do you look for specific ways to bring it into the world.
When a person truly understands who they are and what they want to do, a list of possibilities begins to open up.
From there, they can choose the path that meets their needs — including their financial ones.
From there, they can choose the path that meets their needs — including their financial ones.
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Meet the authors of Strong Me
We created Strong Me as three psychologists from different generations and life experiences, united by the same belief: women need guidance that feels honest, intelligent, and written from one woman to another. Our platform is here to help women understand themselves, their relationships, and their worth with more depth and confidence.
- Aiko VossPhD in PsychologyI grew up between cultures, and for a long time I felt I had to be quiet, pleasant, and easy to love. Psychology helped me understand how many women are taught to abandon themselves in order to be accepted. My work is about self-worth, emotional boundaries, and helping women stop shrinking themselves to keep peace.
- Mirela HartmannPhD in Experimental PsychologyMy background is in Experimental Psychology, so I have always been interested in why people repeat the same emotional patterns, even when those patterns hurt them. In my own life, I also had to learn the difference between being understanding and overgiving. Today, I write about relationships, attachment, and the quiet power of choosing yourself.
- Seraphina ValePhD in Clinical PsychologyAfter many years as a clinical psychologist, I have seen women survive heartbreak, divorce, grief, motherhood, loneliness, and new beginnings. What I know for certain is this: strength is not about becoming hard. It is about finally listening to yourself. My writing is for women who are ready to heal with dignity, clarity, and self-respect.