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Strong Me — modern psychology from women to women

A platform with psychology articles written by women, for women — with depth, respect, and a real understanding of life’s emotional complexity
Strong Me — modern psychology from women to women
A platform with psychology articles written by women, for women — with depth, respect, and a real understanding of life’s emotional complexity

Test for recognizing emotional and psychological abuse

Free test: find out whether your relationship involves emotional pressure, control, or isolation. Get your result instantly.

TEST: Are You in an Abusive Relationship?

Answer each question with “Yes,” “Sometimes,” or “No.” No = 0, Sometimes = 1, Yes = 2.

1) Your partner often makes you doubt your own memory or perception of events, saying things like “That never happened,” “You’re exaggerating,” or “Are you crazy?”

2) After conflicts, you often feel guilty, even when you have not objectively done anything wrong.

3) He tries to control who you see, how you dress, or how you spend your time.

4) You feel afraid of his reaction and carefully think through what to say in order to avoid tension.

5) After an outburst or hurtful behavior, he becomes unusually kind and promises that “it will never happen again.”

6) He dismisses your achievements or minimizes your feelings.

7) He makes you believe that you would not be able to cope without him — financially, emotionally, or socially.

8) He uses silence, ignoring you, or emotional distance as a form of punishment.

9) Over time, you have become more isolated from friends or family because of conflicts he has created.

10) Since being in this relationship, you feel as though you have lost part of yourself — your confidence, peace of mind, or sense of self-worth.

Please answer all questions before viewing your result.

Important: This test is for guidance only and does not replace professional support.
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Meet the authors of Strong Me
We created Strong Me as three psychologists from different generations and life experiences, united by the same belief: women need guidance that feels honest, intelligent, and written from one woman to another. Our platform is here to help women understand themselves, their relationships, and their worth with more depth and confidence.
  • Aiko Voss
    PhD in Psychology
    I grew up between cultures, and for a long time I felt I had to be quiet, pleasant, and easy to love. Psychology helped me understand how many women are taught to abandon themselves in order to be accepted. My work is about self-worth, emotional boundaries, and helping women stop shrinking themselves to keep peace.
  • Mirela Hartmann
    PhD in Experimental Psychology
    My background is in Experimental Psychology, so I have always been interested in why people repeat the same emotional patterns, even when those patterns hurt them. In my own life, I also had to learn the difference between being understanding and overgiving. Today, I write about relationships, attachment, and the quiet power of choosing yourself.
  • Seraphina Vale
    PhD in Clinical Psychology
    After many years as a clinical psychologist, I have seen women survive heartbreak, divorce, grief, motherhood, loneliness, and new beginnings. What I know for certain is this: strength is not about becoming hard. It is about finally listening to yourself. My writing is for women who are ready to heal with dignity, clarity, and self-respect.
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